Part 2: Bringing Healthy Sports into the Lives of Kids

Victory for Title IX and Girls and Women in Sports

Julia wanted to play college tennis, but when she got to school the team had been demoted to a club sport due to “lack of interest.”

Discussion:
Title IX has particular significance for me. It was passed the year after I graduated from high school.

Personally, I was lucky in the sports arena, growing up as an “army brat” with barracks of kids to play with and a baseball field across the street. I played baseball all spring and football all fall and every sport I could get my hands on in-between. I had a dad who thought girls could do anything. I had a high school that had swim team, track team and I was part of the first ski team. In college, I competed on the basketball, tennis and swim team.

Some of my friends did not fare so well, where girls just did not think about doing sports. No other girls did it and there were few opportunities. All that changed after Title IX and my daughter and her friends thrived. Women’s participation at the college level has increased more than 500 percent since Title IX’s enactment. Better still, these gains have not come at the expense of men, whose athletic opportunities have also increased since Title IX’s passage in 1972. We know that girls thrive when they participate in sports, and that the benefit of playing sports stays with them for years to come.

I was upset when Title IX powerful influence was gauged by a deeply flawed 2005 policy that allowed schools to count non-responses to the spam-like survey as a lack of interest in athletics. The AAUW (American Association of University Women) fought this, saying, “It not only created a major loophole through which schools could evade their Title IX obligations, it jeopardized the number of athletic opportunities available to women. “

All of this ended on April 20 when the Obama administration and Department of Education issued new guidance for Title IX, rescinding the 2005 policy. The new guidance returns to the previous standard, under which schools will consider a number of factors, including athletic participation rates at the secondary school levels and interviews with coaches, to ensure they are following Title IX requirements. Schools will have a much better road map for compliance, and women and girls will have a much better shot at fair play.

“Making Title IX as strong as possible is a no-brainer,” said Vice President Biden. “What we’re doing here today will better ensure equal opportunity in athletics, and allow women to realize their potential – so this nation can realize its potential.”

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If I knew then what I know now,
I would have encouraged my grade school girlfriends to play sport with me and the boys I played with.

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Bringing Healthy Sports into the Lives of Kids

Learning Life Lessons through Sports

Bill really wanted his son to experience the fun of baseball the way he did as a kid. He was worried about the serious competitiveness that happened even in early grade school.

Discussion:
I want to share my friend John Child’s story as a coach of his 2 children to help us all remember the main point of sports for kids- to have fun.
John Child’s coaching style started with his management role at work. When he started a review with “you are doing ‘this’ wrong”, people would shut down and get defensive. So he started asking, “Tell me what you’re proud of.” and then asked, “What’s sub-par?” He found people to be surprisingly honest. It was easy for John to just “coach” them along to figure out solutions for improvement.
When John started coaching his child’s team—same thing happened. Kids shut down when told what they were doing wrong, not unlike the adults. Over time he developed a routine. Early in the season, after the first game, he starts the practice with what he thinks the team did well, then poorly as a team. Then he asks the kids to share something they were proud of and something they want to work on. He picks the kids with naturally out-going personalities first. Without fail, they pick something accurate in their self-critique. There are always 3-4 shy, non-athletic kids who find this process very painful, but John helps them through it. Every 2-3 games he repeats this, and gradually the shy ones have their hands up in the air as fast as the others. In addition, they start to critique themselves as a team and to see what the other team didn’t do as a team. This leads them to think for themselves on the field.

Team sports are a great place to learn life lessons.

  • We belong. In addition to their team name, the team develops a song and a banner. Each game the kid who tried especially hard takes the banner home (John starts this at age 9. Every kid gets picked by the end of the season).
  • Empowerment–everyone counts: If you show up to practice you get equal playing time.
  • Everyone does something well and even the “best” have their weak points. We want the kids to be proud of themselves and to be proud to be on the team. We want them to learn to critique themselves
  • Life is not fair. There will always be bad referees, people make mistakes. It is no big deal. (John deliberately makes bad calls in practice so they get used to it. “Bad calls” occur many times in life too.)
  • Winning is just a by-product, success is something more. John likes to start with his soccer teams early at the kindergarten coed level and stay with them until they enter classics or high school. His “average” caliber kids have a lot of fun and also win most of their games.

ATTENTION ADULTS
50% of kids drop out of youth sports by age 13.
Number one reason: “It’s not fun anymore.”
LIFE LESSON HAVE FUN!

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If I knew then what I know now, I would have stepped up to being a coach of my kids sports teams.
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